When Friendships Go Bad

Ronn Is Mike In Manila

I had a friend for years.  Mostly online but I did meet him once and enjoyed it.  We met on a video chat program  in which I ran a very popular room.  Well it was popular for a long time.  I’m going to call this man Ronn W.  You see, he has been harassing me, stalking me.  He has been masquerading here as Mike in Manila. Mike in Manila is a well known journalist and at one time was an anchor on a popular TV news program.

I have mostly given up on online friendships, this guy played a bit of a role in that, but not much.  Basically, he’s “just another brick in the wall.” He wanted Jessie and when she picked me, it appears he now has this obsession with me.  Or perhaps with my happiness..

He continues to try to leave messages here and on my other sites. Often long messages.  They go un-read.  I read the first few lines at times, there is no way I’m going to read his diatribes about me.  I know me far better than he does.  He knows me well as I considered him a good friend, trusted friend for many years.  I’m surprised at the number of things he is wrong about.

Today I got a message from Ronn, first one in a while.  I suspect he had some issues with his internet service provider.  They don’t normally want stalkers on their system as it could cause problems for them.  He showed back up today, with a new Internet Service Provider.  He may need to start seeking another one for violations of my AUP.

The message he sent this time had a lot of information that I think he copied about Xanax.  He has recently become fixated on my taking Xanax and my addiction to it.  There is just one problem, I am not addicted to xanax.  If I want to sleep on a normal human pattern I need it but if I don’t take it, I don’t have withdrawal.  I take only .5mg a day.  I’ve been taking it for 24 years.

I use to smoke four to five packs of cigarettes a day and when I stopped smoking the docs gave it to me to help with that.  I didn’t ask for it.  Then, when I was on high doses of Prednisone I took a lot of Xanax.  I took four milligrams a day.  I don’t know how I functioned on that.  Probably because I was taking so much Predinsone.  When we brought the Prednisone dose down, we also brought the Xanax down.  I was addicted then, I guess.  I didn’t crave Xanax but I’m not sure what it would have done to me if I had just stopped.  Even tapering it was difficult.

Its been over a year since I bought any Xanax.  The reason for that is I take so little.  I got a new prescription from Dr. Duyongco last year.  It hasn’t been filled yet.  By the way, I think Dr. Duyongco is a very good doctor.  He is also a really likeable guy.  He works out of Chong Hua hospital in Cebu City..

Anyway, his last message included this:

I’m going to write this even though I know you will delete it before any of your readers see it. Hiding from the truth, but more importantly hiding from an addiction is your problem

No Ronn, not only do I not post them, I don’t delete them, I place them into the spam que for all of WordPress.  A system all sites share.

But Ronn, its the mark of a madman to write these long messages when no one is going to see them.

Ronn, I would have enjoyed your continued friendship but you have chosen a different path.  I doubt you’ll let up.  I watched you hold grudges for years.

Ronn, I suspect you think you’re the smartest man you ever met.  I was able to find out who you are.  Maybe, you are not as smart as you think you are.  I know your upset that Jessie choose me, maybe she’s not into stalkers.  Ronn, that’s what your doing.

You’ve told me several times how I’m a visitor here and implied you will get me deported.   Let me remind you, that you too are a visitor.  What you have been doing is known in the Philippines as “unjust vexation.”  I probably am not spelling that correctly.  It is a minor criminal offence.  I have communicated with the police chief of a nearby town.  He has assured me there is already enough information to have you arrested, held for 30 days, deported and blacklisted.

I can assure you, that if you don’t stop, I will ask for a restraining order against you and your girlfriend.  In my area, she has the reputation of a bugay in Bogo.  Right now, I’m happy to ignore you.  I know you’re going to get a charge out of me writing about you.  The only reason I’m doing so is to let you know, I know who you are.

I don’t know if you still work for the shipping company you use too but I doubt they would enjoy the employment of a stalker..  If you force me to battle, I will but you’ll have to force it.  Most likely, this will be the last you will hear from me.

Even now, I want to extend a hand of friendship but it is clear that can’t happen.  You’ve proven you can’t be trusted.  I hope you will go in peace and just leave me be.  You’re not going to ruin my life, no matter what happens to me, I will be happy.

Ronn, do you even realize you are mentally ill?  I don’t think you do.  I think you are all about you.  You can’t see anything past you.  You need help Ronn.  I’m not insulting, far from it.  Ronn, this stalking behaviour is not normal.

I hope you find happiness in life.  You’re not going to find it in your money.    Ronn, you once scoffed about me trying to be a “Good Christian.”  Ronn, the last thing I would ever pretend to be is good.  The term good Christian is offence to me.  For me, the way we use it in our society, it implies there are two classes of Christians and that’s just not true.

None of us are good at being Christians.  That’s really the main point of Christianity in my mind.    Jesus made it so we don’t have to be good at it.  He ask we only love others like we love ourselves.  For some of us, that would be a lot of love for others.

Ronn, most everything that I read in your first few messages was way off.  If you want to hang around with Mandy, go for it, believe what she says, I could care less. Really, I don’t.  I’m just amazed that your doing this.

Ronn, I wish you an abundace of Faith, Hope and Love.  I hope you will move on and live in peace.  I truly do not understtand your obsession with me.

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